The Rejected

The first comprehensive work on the psychological aftermath of parental rejection, this book was prompted by the author's conclusion, after three decades of clinical practice, that "the experiences and behaviors of the rejected... seemed to be the most frequently reported clinical phenomena." Dr. Evoy further concluded that there is an array of "integral panoply" of feelings and behaviors that characterize only the rejected. Identifying this behavioral and affective array is the main purpose of this book.

In his introduction, after conceding that "the perfect fitting of human experiences and behaviors into any category . . . is an impossible undertaking," the author justifies his clinical approach on the grounds that certain patterns tend both to persist and to be closely integrated among clients who report or otherwise reveal the experience of parental rejection. Chapter one essays establish the norms of parental rejection, concluding that it may be active or passive, blatant or subtle, acknowledged or concealed—but that it seems always to reflect some parental resentment of the offspring, if only for limiting parental freedom. Among rejected offspring, a common response involves rationalization or self-deception until some releasing mechanism "triggers the realization of rejection."

Chapters two to seven examine the elements in the rejected's integral panoply of feelings and behaviors: damaged self-esteem, concealment of their "real selves" from others, endeavors to disprove low self-evaluation (resulting in dissatisfaction with any achievement), generalized fear or anxiety , guilt and depression, and excessive anger, hostility, or aggression. The final chapter is an eloquent brief for the scientific acceptability of the book's method, holding that naturalistic observation by trained clinicians can reveal authentic meanings and lawful, orderly relationships.

In view of the widespread concern about parental responsibility—most urgently with respect to neglected or abused children—this book's revealing message speaks to psychologists, psychiatrists, and social workers, as well as to the more conscientious practitioners of family law, pastoral counseling, education, and parenthood.